This is my story. It’s probably not all that different than many of yours. But it’s mine and I’m hoping some of my brothers in hairloss may give me some perspective on my situation.
I’ve been losing my hair since pretty much puberty. Thanks again mom and dad. I started on rogaine around 16-17. By 24 I shaved my head. Got on Fin. Then there were the surgeries.
Life was never what I’d hoped it to be. The women were never the type I’d hoped to get. The lighthearted comments from friends cut deeper than they could ever imagine. The feelings of worthlessness and helplessness. And still - no real solution.
3 Strip Procedures, about 6000 grafts total, with the reputed best-of-the-best surgeon in New York City. The results were decent. I find myself with around a patchy NW2 Hairline, NW3 Temples, diffuse thinning throughout, and a crown I cringe when I get a glimpse of. Not to mention a smiley face scar and thin donor that make me wish I never even bothered. I’d gladly shave my head today, but sadly that’s not a real option.
So what are my real options?
I suppose I could live with mediocrity. Sure. Great boring life. That’s what I want. It doesn’t look so bad with concealer. But I lead a pretty active life and it’s just too tough to keep up that kind of lie. I don’t want to live a lie. The HT lie is a big enough one, but easy enough to keep quiet about. Rugs are not an option either.
Since I live in LA now, I’ve gone and consulted with Dr. Umar. He’s pretty awesome by the way. Since my donor is mostly depleted, I figured some BHT would be needed. He recommended 8000 grafts. 4000 FUE, 1000 Chest, 3000 Beard. About 1500 for the Hairline and Temples. 1500 to add thickness througout, and about 4000 to the crown and scar. If I can get a result like Heliboy where I could pull off a buzzcut until some true cure is found, I can live with it. The money is certainly up there, but we only have one life. At 36 I’ve now spent half my adult life suffering because of this. I want this resolved, but I certainly can’t handle any more disappointment.
One thing of concern is no real testing for the BHT. Shouldn’t there be some grafts tested to be sure they’ll take or am I wrong about that? My yields from my strip surgeries were pretty solid even if ultimately they provided mediocre results. And while my hairloss has mostly stabilized, there are certainly no guarantees of that remaining to be the case.
Are there any alternatives I haven’t considered? I suppose I could wait for something else to come along, but there aren’t very many prime years left for me. Do I really want to spend them worrying about my hair and feeling I’ve left even more wasted potential out there?
Really I’ve answered my own question as to what I want to do as I wrote this out, but maybe one of my fellow brothers in this fight can provide some insight I may have overlooked.
Thanks for listening and best of luck to all of you in this struggle.